What
does fear do to us?
What does fear do to us? The consequences of being fear-based
or operating from fear are extremely varied and insidious.
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Fear and Separation
Here’s the bottom line on fear and separation. Fear
encourages separation. To some extent separation may encourage
fear. However it can be very subtle and the ego is quite clever
at making separation look like joining. More..
Universal Truth Related to Use of
Fear?
I can’t pretend to know what is really a universal truth
but based on my personal, social, and professional experience
here’s one that has to be awful close if not “right
on” in terms of being a universal truth. More..
Disappointment
Disappointment and how we use it fascinates me. Many of us
often mention disappointment. We talk about being disappointed
in our selves, others, and various past outcomes. Disappointment
doesn’t come up nearly as often as other fear-based
emotions in sessions with clients. When it does come up, it’s
usually not being addressed directly and is only mentioned
as an aside. More..
Defining the Alternative
to Fear
It is often difficult to find a word to represent the opposite
of fear. The obvious choice for many people is love. However,
I’ve met several people who are uncomfortable with that
and I can understand why. There are some words that have many
different meanings, perceptions, or baggage attached to them,
and love is certainly one of them. . More..
Undoing Fear
Having established that separation/fear is the cause of our
unhappiness, limitations, angst, anger, loneliness, guilt,
sadness, frustration, anxiety, relationship problems, and
several other negative manifestations in our life, the logical
question is, “What can I do about it?” I think
it’s unfortunate that we tend to think that we have
to battle or fight fear. This strengthens it rather than dissipating
it. Fighting it psychologically establishes it as a solid
negative entity that seems to work against us. More..
Who Are You?
One of the most amazing things to realize is that we are not
who we think we are. We have adopted and made up so many stories
about who we are that we have lost sight of the truth of who
we are. It is more accurate to call these stories lies. I
tend to believe that we enter this world in a very pure state.
However, soon we learn language which opens the door to hearing
who others think we are or who we should be but aren’t.
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Where's The Joy?
Consider this for a minute. Where do you really look for happiness?
How would you finish the statement? “I'll be happy when
-----”. Finish it several times and even write your
answers down. More..
Love Or Fear?
I like to simplify things so my limited mind can keep track
of them and I find that looking at all emotions, feelings,
and states of being as falling into two camps, love or fear,
helps me see more quickly and accurately what is really going
on in my mind. I also have a strong suspicion that this paradigm
reflects reality. More..
Beliefs, Emotions, And Health
Most of us have adopted unconscious and unexamined beliefs
that we need fear, frustration or other negative feelings
to help take care of and control ourselves. It doesn’t
appear that we have a choice because we don’t think
that we are “choosing” the fear, anger, etc. It
appears to come unbidden because it happens so quickly and
easily but the fact is that it only comes because we have
a belief that it is appropriate and even helpful. More..
Your Choice: Being Judgmental
or Good Health
Work in many fields is showing that health is dramatically
effected by factors beyond the physical. Our state of mind
can have dramatic impact on our health – negatively
or positively. It also has an impact on the effectiveness
of the dietary, herbal, and physical regimens that we follow
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Giving and Receiving
Have you ever given a gift to or done something for someone
and then felt very upset because they didn't respond appropriately
in your eyes? Maybe they forgot to thank you. Maybe they never
reciprocated after you had done several things for them. Maybe
they didn't take care of whatever you gave to them as well
as you would have done. More..
Whose Voice Is That?
What if you discovered that someone had invented a way to
program thoughts into your brain and have you believe that
they were your own thoughts? What if most of your negative
self-defeating and limiting thoughts were not even your thoughts?
What if most of the fearful,angry, judgmental, sad, guilty,
and depressing thoughts were put there by someone else with
access to your brain? What if it was done so subtly or cleverly
that you took complete ownership and would think it absurd
to even consider the possibility that they weren't your own
thoughts? More..
The Willingness and Courage
to Heal
Do we really have the willingness and courage to heal? I mean
“REALLY”! I think we might get a better look at
the true answer when we ask, “Am I willing to change?”
What are we willing to change to support our own healing?
Usually in my experience we first have to change our beliefs,
perceptions, stories, mental habits and priorities. The old
saying that “Form follows thought.” may not be
anywhere more evident than in healing. More..
The Presence
Very uncharacteristically, I woke early and could feel the
dawn approaching even though there was only blackness outside
the window. Laurie, my wife, was still sound asleep and there
was no sound from the other couple who had rented the Colorado
Rocky Mountain cabin with us for the weekend. Since I could
not sleep, I decided that it might be a good opportunity to
take some wildlife pictures as dawn broke. Quietly I dressed,
found my camera and slipped outside into the brisk pine scented
mountain air. More..
Divine Paradox
As long as there is a me,
I’ll never know you.
As long as there is a you,
I’ll never know me. More..
The Deer and the Lion (Following
Our Guidance)
Recently while in Montana near Glacier National Park while
several forest fires were burning all around the area I saw
a doe and a fawn in a field close to me. I stopped to observe
and then noticed that a mountain lion was in the grass right
in front of them. The lion had obviously encountered the fires
and had black smudges on its body. It wasn’t limping
but it was moving slowly. The doe and her trailing fawn walked
up to within 10 feet of it and kept following it – obviously
very curious about it. The mountain lion kept looking back
at them as if to say, “Go away and leave me alone!”
I know from living in the mountains and observing deer almost
daily that mountain lions are their main predator and that
normally they are very wary of them. I also know that does
are very protective of their fawns and do everything possible
to avoid exposing them to danger. More..
Can You Trust Your Intuition?
Many clients and friends have shared comments and questions
pertaining to the trustworthiness of their intuition. “I
can’t trust my intuition anymore.” “I should
have trusted my intuition.” “I’m not sure
I have any intuition because many times my thoughts don’t
turn out to be true.” “I never know whether to
trust my intuition or not.” More..
Before Life Closes a Door,
Open Several
As I observe the way many of us progress through life, particularly
in the latter stages, I notice that life can gradually (quickly
in some cases) narrow itself down to a very limited spectrum
of physical, mental and/or spiritual activity. Although we
usually associate this phenomenon with old age I’ve
seen it start to happen at relatively young years. It often
seems to be an expectation that becomes a self-fulfilling
prophecy. The obvious question is “Why?” Does
it have to be that way?” More..
Reflections on Saddam
This morning after sitting meditatively for awhile in a quiet
state, I looked at CNN on the web and saw that Saddam had
been captured. As I looked at his picture I felt grateful
that his reign of terror was over but felt no joy or elation.
The surprising and powerful thought that came out of nowhere
was, “That’s my brother.” and I was overwhelmed
with emotion. I felt a deep connection with him and had the
realization that who he had become and what he had done is
a form of what I can become and do if fear becomes the driving
force in my life. Yes, I am very aware of the unbelievably
cruel things he did to many thousands of people and would
never think to justify them. However there is a strong message
here for me that I want to use to full advantage in my life.
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